Psychology of Argument b/w Men and Women
In everyday life, everybody argues. To put it in more elegant way, people exchange words. We all see things from our own perspective and this sometime leads to disagreement to what other people say.
Arguing is part of thinking. It is a part of human nature to hear a statement and contradict. But not all arguments are loud. Am sure everyone argues inside their head and anything can trigger an internal debate because that is how we think about the world.
Relationships with people of the opposite sex are also an important part of our lives. We want to be able to love our partners, enjoy happy family lives, get along with colleagues at work, have friends without the constant fear that what we say will be 'taken the wrong way', be 'misinterpreted' and lead to arguments or even rows.
Friendship can pose special problems for speaking one's mind. Many people believe that disagreements can damage a relationship by revealing differences that wound. Others claim that frankness is essential in any truly warm and close relationship and that understanding can be achieved only by talking about differences.
Clear communication between lovers is very much needed to avoid argument. But as everyone know, it is very rare. Most of the time, each expect the other to 'mind-read'. If he/she refuses to acknowledge the hints because they think other person has to state explicitly what is on their mind then problem arises. The person who doesn't communicate clearly will always think he/she is being ignored by their partner.
When women argue they are likely to be labelled emotional, disagreeable or aggressive where as when men argue they are considered rational, reasonable and firm.
" I never make the mistake of arguing with people for whose opinions I have no respect"
Arguing is part of thinking. It is a part of human nature to hear a statement and contradict. But not all arguments are loud. Am sure everyone argues inside their head and anything can trigger an internal debate because that is how we think about the world.
Relationships with people of the opposite sex are also an important part of our lives. We want to be able to love our partners, enjoy happy family lives, get along with colleagues at work, have friends without the constant fear that what we say will be 'taken the wrong way', be 'misinterpreted' and lead to arguments or even rows.
Friendship can pose special problems for speaking one's mind. Many people believe that disagreements can damage a relationship by revealing differences that wound. Others claim that frankness is essential in any truly warm and close relationship and that understanding can be achieved only by talking about differences.
Clear communication between lovers is very much needed to avoid argument. But as everyone know, it is very rare. Most of the time, each expect the other to 'mind-read'. If he/she refuses to acknowledge the hints because they think other person has to state explicitly what is on their mind then problem arises. The person who doesn't communicate clearly will always think he/she is being ignored by their partner.
When women argue they are likely to be labelled emotional, disagreeable or aggressive where as when men argue they are considered rational, reasonable and firm.
In the end one has to agree that arguing takes us nowhere.
" I never make the mistake of arguing with people for whose opinions I have no respect"
- Edward Gibbson
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